Yes Rootzgirl, talk up da tings dem! Bigup all the strong women out their providing for theirs. Keep ur heads up!!!

this is not a caribbean thing, nor a race thing, nor a rich/poor man thing, it happens in many places, stop stereotyping caribbean men

No get it TWISTED most a dem BLACK man ya tan so. From Jamaica to di Black American Man dem to di African... If unno ever see di MAURY POVICH show u will see dat nuff a dem man ya just no want support dem YOUTH.
Second as a woman if u see say di man dutty & u end up Breed u need fi THINK bout it before have di pickney. Unno have options dash it weh or someting no bring di yute an a bawl how di man no mine it

Alot of these women are to blame too! Statistics have said that up to 75% of child births in Jamiaca are given to the wrong father!!! Can you believe that mess? Women aren't as innocent as they used to be. I know several woman who knew they had jacket pickney's, but still gave it to the man they were with. Sometimes the man is the wiser, and decides to protest taking care of a child that is not his, but can't afford a DNA test to prove it. Even if it's not a case like that, some of these woman should see how a man treats you now, or his other children, or even his past woman to see how they will be treated when it ends. If your man talks garbage about his ex, and don't care for his current kids, then don't expect him to be an A+ father to your kids should you get pregnant for him, use your heads ladies. I'm not bashing all women, or men, because my brother is a single father and always has been, and I know plenty more. The mothers disgard the kids, and the men work hard, and would die for thier kids, including my brother. People need to start making smarter decisions, don't breed for a man that you don't know that well, and less than one year, is too damn soon, then you wonder why he's gone! look at Beenie and D'angel, I'm sorry, but I knew that wouldn't last. Regardless of the reasons, there is still no excuse to leave these kids behind, and uncared for. It's been proven that this is one of the biggest reasons for the crime in our country, lack of education, and children who have nothing to do but play with gun, instead of go to school. Remember your not just bringing a child, your literally bringing the future to this world when you get pregnant, so do so with caution, because you never know how important that child is going to be!!

That is a common myth in the Caribbean that if u look at the real figure is false.while there are men out there who don't support their kids the MAJORITY DOES SUPPORT THERE KIDS.
A man that has a child in our culture is treated with respect for "replenishing the earth".the common man normally supports his child but more high profile men who may have got a woman pregnant on the side is more often the circumstances that causes the man not to give 100% support to the child.that's my view of things anyway

I cant agree more with u these men act as if the child doent need to eat& drink they seem as if their sperm was donate. big up sitas!! who put their best out for their kids and hope ful the mothers who r out there lookin a man to take care of them & kids its not gonna happen so get up off ur **s and get a job dead beat dads time to take care of those kids..................

bless no offence,man always tek care a dem youth but BWOYS on the other hand dont, cause you have some big 30+ and 40+ yearold bwoy out deh and woman need fi know dat and dont mek no wutless bwoy left dem wid a life time a burden

bless no offence,man always tek care a dem youth but BWOYS on the other hand dont, cause you have some big 30+ and 40+ yearold bwoy out deh and woman need fi know dat and dont mek no wutless bwoy left dem wid a life time a burden

bless no offence,man always tek care a dem youth but BWOYS on the other hand dont, cause you have some big 30+ and 40+ yearold bwoy out deh and woman need fi know dat and dont mek no wutless bwoy left dem wid a life time a burden

Any male that doesn't look after their youth are not REAL MEN A real man is not afraid of responsiblity. To all of my sweet carribean men who look after their youth we love u bad.

I put it like this. People need fi know who dem ah lay down wid. If women shop for men like dem shop fi draws, is what dem expect? Same goes fi di man dem, if di gal already have 2-3 pickney, but still have time fi inna yu face, something no right. Moretime ooman tek man fi eediot, an try trap man wid pickney, that ah frockrey in my eyes. If you feel sey mi ago get trap I have news fi you, try bl**dclot catch mi. Move an goway dutty stickin gal.

Roots Girl, I'm a long time reader and first time responder! Dis ya argument really touch di heart. Most men like me do take good care a dem yute. Nothing is more beautiful in a mans eyes than watching 'im yute grow up and wanting to be around 'im. What yu haffi understand is that sometimes some woman causes a man to want to be away from her so much that the kid(s) may feel the brunt of it also. Women has more rights in this world when it comes onto (kids) and that should be rightfully so. Women go through the nine months and di labor so mi understand. But what unno have fi realize is that every child has 23 chromosomes for each party! Di pitney belongs to both a unno. Some a dem fadda ya bitter because di law favor di woman dem too much. For example.....it is assume that after di break-up that the woman should be the one fi get the kid(s) until she is proven to be unfit. Personally, i feel that is F*CKERY! Everyone should have the same priviledges to their kid(s). That is why some man get frustrated and bounce because him caan tek that emotional part. Nevertheless every man fi wise up and know sey it's not about her or the sour issues you may have, a REAL man fi always tek care a 'im yute @ all cost......whether yu haffi work 2-3 jobs brethen!! Yu yute might not know di struggles yu do but the almight know king! Finally, let me tek the opportunity fi big up all the REAL mothers who keep it real and tek care a dem kid(s).

Ahmm I don't necessarily think its Caribbean or even Jamaican men in general who don't like to support their children.
I think its people with little to no money who feel like they should go around and POPULATE the Earth. Somehow that rounds it down to Jamaican men and African men.
If you can't afford kids please don't have them...

Well as a yute I grew up with my father and I saw him take up his responsibility and took care of his kids so when I became a father myself it was almost second nature to take care of my yute. We live what we learn!

I think it's just a dead beat parent thing not really something attached to any specific group.I have a son for a Jamaican man and he doesn't look after him. I won't run him down and say derogatory things about him as he is the child's father but I don't know how he sleeps at night and eats each day not knowing what his son has. He has other kids but because he feels that 'I have it' (money) and I think he uses that to justify his lack of support in his own head. He has asked in the past if I would be with him sexually or have another baby, he's crazy why would I do that again. Anyway I know my boy is ok and well cared for and it will be his judgement when he becomes a man and asks him where were you? My dad is jamaican and he is a good dad and that is the view I hold on to. Big up to all women and men raising their children alone we are raising the future and that is a blessing greater than any money.

StudMuffin - You said a mouthful that makes REAL sense. When a woman and a man break up, the man also has the mentality that the money he is given the woman is gonna be spend on the women. He must loose that mentality and realize that once the child live with the woman a roof is being provided over his childs head so he should help out and do his part. God Nah Sleep!

A true nuff a unnuh nuh know. I have been through hell and back wid mi baby madda. I give har $1K(US) a month fi mi dawta and trust me I know seh 3/4 of dat guh into getting har madda hair did. Plus whenever anything extra fi duh a mi a fi take care of that. Most women don't know what them want out of life. Dem gwaan and gwaan till dem run weh di good man dem. Dem tek weh di man yute and waste him time den want suck him dry fi money.
Most man can't tek di pain from not seeing dem yute everyday and tun innah weekend or every other weekend father. Suh di man den just tek weh dem self. It nuh right but nuff a dem grow up wid out a father suh dem rationalize seh if dem grow up "fine" den it ok. Now mi know seh some ol dawg no out deh but a dem man deh some a unnuh want.

MI HAVE A 11 YEAROLD SON WHO DEPEND ON ME 100 % COOK,WASH,IRON SHOPING YOU NAME IT AND I NU HAVE NO REGRETS CUASE MI KNOW SAH MAN FI STAND UP TO DEM RESPOSIBILITY!! SO ANY BWOY WHO BREED A WOMAN AND RUN LEFT DI YOUTH FI SUFFA FI GET A FAT STOTT IN A DI CENTA A DEM FACE ST8 A DEM BWOY DEH GI MAN BAD NAME, AND MEK MI TELL DEM A SECRET WHEN YOU TEK CARE A YOU YOUT DEM IT COME EEN LIKE YOU A WOMAN MAGNET,

i couldn't agree with jamaicanlady more.i am father of 3 and i make sure thair is food on the table all the time and i am willing to send my last to ensure that they get a good education.a lat of people r having unprotected sex with people they hardly know and that is the root of the problem.jamaican government need to spend some of the money they use to buy SUV'S and educate the people of tne country that the dission u make today will determin the furture of tomarrow

I like this article because i am a product of this same thing. Although i am grown and receiving my degree in 3 days no thanks to my father. I have read some of the comments and all this is talking about is money (well mainly). From my perspective I would just like to have my father just being their. This island is not really a blame on all men but it is a cycle. ( THE WILLE LYNCH THEORY) Black men are brained washed from the days of slavery so if you actually look at it and check back the theory then you will understand what Black men are like this. Don't get me wrong it would have been great to have my father support me in college but him just being their would have meant more. I like this article and it touch home for me.

rootz gal or rootz girl let me tell you something put your article in a right perspective,i man a fada who luv and respect i mon son,mi and his mother is the biggest of enermy,but i son never leave i so...please don`t mention caribbean man,i put a fire pon your article.

Jamaican lady i hope that fact you gave about 75% of Jamaican women giving their baby to the wrong father is Waaaaaaaay off because if it is not that is both disgusting and sad. Where did you get those facts from??

And as for the whole dead beat dad scenario that shyt runs deep in both Jamaica and black men, look at the front page news the other day about Beenie Man not paying child support for his 5 year old son, 5 years and he's not paid a penny and that man has money!! and he doesn't deny that the boy is his so what is his problem?? These things make me sick! what is the excuse for it?!

If the recent report in by the family courts in Jamaica is anything to go on that stated that 45% of the children claimed by women to be fathered by the men they are seeking child support for aren't after DNA testing, the biological fathers of the children in question. In other words a significant number of women cheat far more that men and give men children belonging to another, so men aren't sure if the child is theirs. Also the kind of ways women use children against men sometimes makes it difficult for men to play any active part in a child's life

This is a wicked article!

I think that this article is fantastic and sums up what is going on out there with a lot of baby mothers out there, but I always aspire to be a strong sister as my baby father is a nightmare,
but I am just leaving him in the hands of the lord!

As a Jamaican man I've noticed that most Jamaican men are selfish. the have noidea what it means to raise a child. They are too consumed with trying to be young and hip or trying to pursue their self interests (other woman etc). they have kids as trophies..thats just how they are.

1. I blame the WOMAN first. woman need to stop having kids for these types of men. USE A BL***DCLAAT condom. Men can walk away, they wont have a belly for 9 months...thats why you need to be MORE cautious....you have to go through the physical part not them Thats just how nature made it.

2. Stupid Tradition...More than likely he mans father was the same way, or even the grandfather or uncle. Men grow up seeing their having kids allove rthe place and they think its normal or "Ah suh it go".

Until men realize that its not ok to have a 2 pickneyin JA, one in NY and a next set in Miami they will never change.

SOLUTION: CHoose better mates (if a man has 5 baby madda..what makes you think that you will be treated different?

Use condoms (prevention is the best method)

Raise the kid that you have now right so that they don't grow up thinking its ok to breed doen the place and not take care of your responsibilites....Tell your daughters that baby madda doesn't = wife or any high status.

listen to me now. i hate when people stereotype and say this set of poeople and that set of people. i am living in the brooklyn and the amount of single american mothers in this country its unbelieveable. yes, there are some caribbean men who got some of these american women pregnant and dont mine the youth but majority of the women them got pregnant from their own american men and they dont mine them youth. do u ever read how much of these top celebrities dont mine their youth eventho they have maaadddd money. so please dont say why caribbean men dont want to support them youth. you should say why lame ass MAN SHELLS, sperm donors dont take care of their responsibilities, whether they black, white, spanish or asian. this is a world wide thing not just a caribbean thing. JAH BLESS THOSE WHO TAKE CARE OF THEIR OWN.

I wholeheartedly agree with the others who point out this issue spans age, culture, and nationality. some people have the mental and emotional acumen to be good parents, and some people do not. people who have the means but choose not to provide the basics for their kids (food, shelter, clothing, education, health care) are downright criminal, but there is the second level of care which includes guidance as far as teaching good morals and values, expectation of personal safety in the home, the shoulder to cry on, the listening ear, the element of discipline so that the streets and the media don't end up raising your child... there is more to parenting than breeding and paying child support. best advice is to choose very wisely whom you decide to have kids with and be prepared to be the mother AND the father if s/he doesn't turn out the way you hoped or planned. I don't have any yet and although i think jamaican men are the sweetest thing on earth I WOULDNT EVEN LOOK TWICE in the direction of a man who has several baby mothers -- not that that automatically makes him a deadbeat parent but I don't want my child competing with all his other kids for his personal involvement and other resources. furthermore -- and I know this from personal experience having been raised by my dad -- here is the US, family court is VERY prejudiced in that the woman almost always gets away with everything you could possibly get away with, so if a woman wants to be vindictive she can collect child support AND prevent the father from seeing his kids. there are just too many factors at work here... just BE VERY PICKY whom you give the privilege of having kids with you. both parents have to have the child's best interest at heart for this thing to work right.

I will admit that this is a serious problem with our black men..The cycle goes on and on. The men who were raised without fathers are doing the same thing. if you take a look at the big picture, you will realize that the men who were raised with both parents follow the same traits. My children are Canadian with Jamaican father, and I too have the same problem. He left and also left his kids. He did not display any form of being a dead beat dad, he worked and took care of his responsibility. He sought to be with another woman. But why give up on the kids you help to bring into this world. But I would say to those mothers, as my mother would to me "Puppy turn Dog"..They will grow up, it will be hard, but just tell yourself that he too could have been a victim of 911. It's sad, but the outcome is victorious.

Jamaicanlady I can understand that this is a serious topic, but some parts of your statements are not true. Based on statistics published by U.W.I. last year only 34% of those tested was given to the wrong father. I will admit that this is way too large, but please state the facts.

As a single mother, I have to take care of my babies and put them first, before myself even. They didn't ask to be born. Nuff said. If I'm the only one in the home then that's just the way it is and I'll hold it down. I know it should be both parents working together but I won't half-step because it's only me. I can't control a supposedly "grown man". I'm not going to blah-blah about what my baby daddy will or won't do. That's on him and my child will see as they grow up. Keep your heads up Sisters!! One Love!

Because women don't demand marriage before indulging in sex. When women start demanding marriage and committment before procreating things will change. Women is the key to this mystery not the men.

It is time to stop the stereotyping. Maybe because some people are only around Caribbean men and Caribbean culture that is all they know. But if one is to do research then one would be surprised to find the amount of white men in America who are arrested daily for failure to pay child support. On most state websites that list these persons details white men are as prevalent as any other.

As a responsible father i grieve everytime i see articles such as these because enough respect is not being paid to the men who steadfastly stand by there children. Instead more credence is paid to the loose women who continually chase after irresponsible, committed or married men who they know will never live up to their responsibilities.
When they get hurt and the man is nowhere around they turn around and blame all men.

I think it is high time you start calling out women who are more interested in profiling (hence they have to be with the "hot men" and the money men) and going to dances and parties, as well as the ones who refused to go work for their own than continually blame men. After all a man cannot make a baby on his own.

This goes out saying, they have a lot of us sisters out there who are just plain ole stupied. For example.., you and a man no go nowhere, him no wine or dine you, you get pregnant, had the baby 10 months later the child passed away, due to medical conditions, The baby got buried all on the mother's expenses, THE BABY DADDY DID'NT EVEN GIVE A DIME TOWARD THE FUNERAL EXPENSES.. in other words him neva give a dam bout you or that innocent child (whey that tell a woman sey. AND INSPITE OF ALL THAT SHE WENT BACK AND HAD ANOTHER BABY 1YEAR LATER, ALL NOW THE MAN NO FART PON HER OR THE CHILD, NOW SHE WANT CHILD SUPPORT, SHE JUST TRAP DI MAN JUST FI SAY SHE HAVE A JAMAICAN BABY DADDY, SOME GIRLS, WOMAN GAL A REAL MASCOT.

This goes out saying, they have a lot of us sisters out there who are just plain ole stupied. For example.., you and a man no go nowhere, him no wine or dine you, you get pregnant, had the baby 10 months later the child passed away, due to medical conditions, The baby got buried all on the mother's expenses, THE BABY DADDY DID'NT EVEN GIVE A DIME TOWARD THE FUNERAL EXPENSES.. in other words him neva give a dam bout you or that innocent child (whey that tell a woman sey. AND INSPITE OF ALL THAT SHE WENT BACK AND HAD ANOTHER BABY 1YEAR LATER, ALL NOW THE MAN NO FART PON HER OR THE CHILD, NOW SHE WANT CHILD SUPPORT, SHE JUST TRAP DI MAN JUST FI SAY SHE HAVE A JAMAICAN BABY DADDY, SOME GIRLS, WOMAN GAL A REAL MASCOT.

WELL YOU CANT JUST COME DOWN PON MAN JUST LIKE THAT, CAUSE WHEN A WOMAN DONT TAKE CARE OF THEM CHILDREN ITS MUCH WORST. ME ALONE TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS WHILE SHE PARTY ALMOST EVERY NIGHT OF THE WEEK THATS WHY I TAKE THE KIDS AND LEAVE.

SHE JUST LIKE BRITNEY!

First of all why shouldn't caribbean men be called out. As soon as these subjects come around yall always with the "its not just black men or jamaican men other nationalities do it too" yea so what if they do, were not talking about them were talking about you black men caribbean men jamaican men whatever you call yourselves these days. Yall coming with this badman attitude that having pickney all over the place is a good thing NO IT IS NOT! Im actually now sick to death with it. But i've stop blaming the men now i blame these ignorant stupid little girls that are too proud to call themselves BABY MUDDA and talking with their YEA THATS ME BABY FADA. NONSENSE running around sleeping with men (sorry jokers) that they know have partners or wives getting pregnant to trap the man then when he dissapears wanna cry out and complain that their BABY FADA don't give them nothing, its the children i feel sorry for. LADIES stop looking at OPP and start educating yourselves, stand up and be counted as a strong intelligent and decent woman in this world instead of another BABY MUDDA. And socalled men (just the worthless ones)stop with the stupidness just because your dad did it and your grandad did it and so on it don't mean your can't think for yourselves, make a change leave these chicken heads alone and make a difference, make a difference with a strong intelligent and decent woman YOUR WIFE.

Note: The 75% was an estimate, not an actual testing of DNA, I read it in the gleaner last year. I didn't make that up, I also heard the same thing I believe on Sexwise. I agree that I think the stats are high, but again, this is an estimate, I believe it was done by a poll, and some actual DNA tests, but could never be all DNA tests. Even without these stats though, let's be honest, some Jamaican woman love to give jacket, why you think there are so many songs about it!! This is why some of these men leave the pickney's fatherless, because they don't want to raise a child that is not thier own.

I can speak from experience.. I had 2 kids back to back fi a man and mi and him did live and deh. He started abusing me physically when mi did a breed wid me 2nd and he was very wicked with money. Mi tek my stand as a woman and seh mi nah stay in abuse or raise my pickney round abuse, and left di man, get a full time job, get my kids in to daycare, and since then the man never ever give me one dollar towards dem pickney ya. Mi did tyad fi beg di man fi help...all ask him even fi just help me in keeping dem while mi a work..di man tell mi seh from ME bruk up him family him nah help mi as a matter of fact him go as far fi seh him woulda never even spit pon mi if him pass mi and di kids dem a road. this is now 10 yrs later he owes mi in the range of 30,000 cnd (court ordered). To this day, he does nothing for my kids. I dont call him or beg him anything in over 6-7 yrs I have 2 other children, i work full time and mind all my children myself. My children are never hungry or cold but let me tell u this..whenever over the yrs I have buck one of his friends, dem nuh stop tell mi how him brag bout him kids dem how dem a grow nice and big? wtf>??? you know u can judge women all you want but none of us know what the future will hold or how ppl will handle situations.. all i can say is Jamaican men need to left that dutty attitude that when the relationship mash up so does the child support for no matter how the woman can cope, it is the father's RESPONSIBILITY to take 50% care of the child. I dont know how some men sleep at night knowing they havent contributed 1 dollar towards their childs food/clothing/shelter. I pray for the day Jamaican men stop shaming themselves and uplift themselves to become proud black men that we can boast about.

Boy, sometimes it sticky. But a so when my sister did have her baby and after the baby born the father disappeared. The child came out looking just like the father, but my sister and everybody inna wi house love the pickney to death. Right a now the likkle pickney bright no hell (i mean intelligent) thank god mi sister never dash har way because she is such a blessing (cold bump a take mi as mi talk de way mi proud a har). A just pray to god say she come out to something good and make de dutty boy see way him never mind.

Jamaicanlady stop chat madness, it's not just jamaican women who gives bun = is an all over thing. Anyways, me know say when mi breed mi definitely a go know a who a di daddy, cos mi nuh inna de Tom, Dick and Harry flex like a me name pass roun donkey. Anyways, with that said we all know that even when some man blatantlt know say de pickney a fe dem dem till end up nuh waan mine' eh. A hope when fe mi time come round dat nuh reach mi (although a doubt it, cos right now my partner wants a child more than me). But if that happen I would raise the child up on my own, give it love and everything/ and at the same time make it know bout it wutless' pupa

msmama, why you suh "bad luckid" seh two man breed yuh and leff. Maybe you need fi teck a look at yuh choices.

Our problem is that we spend so much time talking about irrelevant "stuff". Let's not waste time talking about whether it's caribbean men who do not support their children.
Let us come to the realization that this is a major problem in our country and we need to find a way to fix it.
I am an adult with age off of the almanac long time. BUT I DO NOT LIKE MY FATHER!!!! When I was a child I used to be happy to see him, if and when he decides to stop by. But now that I am an adult and look in retrospect, it makes my stomach ache and know that when he dies I will not attend his funeral (ofcourse that's if he goes before me).
I remember as a child my mother dressed me nicely with ribbons, my pretty dress and shoes and socks and took me to his job. She wanted child support. I witnessed him fight my mother. Yeah, why did she go to his job? That's a whole different topic. As a child, what has always been in my mind was the instant replay of that child molester fighting my mother who took such good care of me.
Later on in life, the only time I had a good breakfast: Milo tea, scrambled eggs, hard dough bread with best butter was after my mom asked my and sister and me to go sleep in our grandmother's bed because my father visited. He didn't come to see me. He came to pay my mother for sex. Now that I am older I realized that she prostituted herself in order for MY FATHER to give her money that he should have rightfully given her on a regular basis....Could she have said "no"? Where would she get the money to buy 1/2 of chicken, big jill peas and a bone dry coconut and carrots for carrot juice? When fudgy come and squeeze the horn how could we get a zooper dooper?
I am now the single mother of a nine year child. Her father pays child support through his nose hole now. If he decides he is not going to work in order to spite me his black a*s gets thrown inot jail and driver's license gets revoked. He is in arrears of 35K and will pay until he pays me every last penny he owes me. With inflation and gas price going up, I feel the need to reopen the case and ask for more, but me fraid say it might just work out that I get less than what I'm getting now.........so let sleeping dogs lie!
But we as sisters have to stop sleeping with these losers and worse not using protection. Two things to look at: AIDS and DBD (dead beat dads)
One Love Jah guide.