Well said. We are in the year 2007, we have access to almost everything nowadays, those women should be filling their heads with positive things and educating their children not to make the same mistakes us older ones have made.
I am so pleased that you are "talking plain and clear" We really need this today, as we are better than that..
You go girl, you are an inspiration..(some of us English women need to follow your lead)

Rootzgal needz a gud Fixxing!

Tell Dem Rootzgirl, you have hit a lot of buttons... but most of the time the girl on the side can't support herself financially and the man use that over her too.... these men pack their heads with all types of nonsense oh why he can't finagle his way out of his so-called unhappy marriage..

Most of these affairs are all about sex anyway and because the man can give the other woman money, she mistakes this for love... some man just are big spenders and it doesn't mean much....

And, Rootz Girl, if dem do hot,how come dem caan get a man fe demself dem haffi a borrow man?

Its a shame that this is the norm in Jamaica. Just check "Dear Pastor" when dem write him and say stupid things like... "Dear Pastor, My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years but I have a problem. His girlfriend/babymadda/wife of 8 years wont leave him alone". Serious ting.

I just have to shake my head.
So go ahead and call dem out. Dem fe shame.

lawdy lawdy mi belly yuh tep pon some gyal corn toe woooeiiei. anuh lie who tek it personally a live dangerously. Wife fi life say dat

wow! you definitely said it. Another fear that these matey women should have also is that, if by chance the man should leave wifey and come to you; later on he will do the same to you. So dont Do it. Please have a child for the right reasons and not no wrong ones.

Roots look good fi real. She need a good fix. On the true tips still she speak di trut.

Thats is a good point. I cant see why these females do this all they need is a goodeducation to improve themselves. Beinf dependent is not they way to go, its is now 2007 as one person said. no man need a woman who cant help a situation when it arrise.ladies get ur self togather 1

its crazy that women do these things..but some persons within our society i guess arent holding true and maintaining proper morals but it stems from socialization and the state of the economy..prostitution..hopefully the young ones will seek to find mentors..dont know its..cant wait to hear what u have to say about the men..

A BABY IS A LIFE TIME GUARANTEE MORE THAN A, WIFE CAUSE A RING DOESN'T MEANS FOREVER, BUT A BABY IS, SO WHETHER WIFE OR NOT THE BABY IS A LIFE TIME INVESTMENT.

yeh that's so true but all of this is part of life . these things could change if women start taking care of their own business, be independent make your own money so you won't have to depend on a man with his wife or his woman to maintain you,
stop being so lazy , sleeping all day clubing all night and depend on other peoples property (OPP) don't matter howmany kids you make for him he won't be with you if don't want too,
men please don't hide your kids away from your wife or woman because the mistake is yous and not there's, they don't deserve to be hidden or treated unfearly, treat them the same way you treat those at home; i'm a man and yes i made that mistake too, having a child outside my relationship but i treat him equally with those inside reguardless to what the mothers may think or say because the mistake were made by three grown ups and not by the poor innocent little child. wife and other woman will or may change all the time but your kids are gonna be yours for ever; and those of you who have already make that mistake if you love the woman at home enough maybe she will forgive you after all none of us is perfect, but don't let the outside woman use the child to get to you, take care of your child and not her.
ONCE IS A MISTAKE TWICE IS A HABBIT
so if he got more than one kid outside
well its up to you to decide your next step

One life, I appreciate your honesty. It is quite true that in the long run it's the child that suffers because of the adults' mistakes. He/She will always have the stigma of being the outside child. Often times resented as a constant reminder of the straying partner's affair.

In the long run we need to mindful of children we bring into the world, and realize that while money is an important factor in raising a child, quality time spent with a child is even more precious.

We cannot let our selfish ways override sensible thinking. Most of the young men raising havoc in Jamaica and elsewhere don't have a father figure at home. Most moms are stretched thin, trying to be breadwinner, father/mother, counselor. So it's not just having a child and holding a man. That child will eventually get holder and need a lot more than part-time parents.

While I agree the outside child should not be scorned, I must say these NASTY men must try to be faithful and if yes IF dem use condom and try to protect themself properly the woman won't have a child to hold dem. It is a shame men in the situation talking bout how women fi be independent an dem same one a let things happen. IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO AND THESE NASTY MEN NEED TO MAKE A BETTER ATTEMPT TO BE FAITHFUL... a woman breeding is athe least it's those NASTY dirty disease an germs these men may carry home to the wife/upfront woman that is more fearful. In 2007 unno need fi stop di mad ting. J'can man i believe in unno but more a unno need fi settle an stop run gal race...

I've neva been a second woman as I just need 2 much attention and dem man de no attract me i'm even fearful of men with children already can't deal wid u an u pickney madda an all a dat nonsense... can we talk about dat ROOTZGIRL... please lets sort dem out cause every woman dem meet as u settle wid dem, dem want breed u. I need u to talk on that topic..

THIS IS VERY TRUE..I MUST ADMIT THAT I AM A MATEY..AND MY SO CALLED MAN..WANNA BREED ME AND HE KNOWS GOOD AND WELL HE HAS A WIFEY AT HOME..HE HAS DONE THIS SEVERAL TIMES BEFORE AND HAS OUTSIDE CHILDREN BUT I REFUSE TO DO..SO IF HE LEAVES HE JUST LEAVES..BUT PICKEY NAH HOLD MON AGAIN...I DO WHAT I DO WITH HIM CAUSE I AM A ADULT AND CHOOSE TOO DO SO..BUT I AM WELL EDUCATED AND MIND MYSELF AND MY PICKNEY AND MI NAH NEED NO MON FE TAKE CARE OF MI...AND i MADE SURE I TOLD HIM THAT..

these girls on the side are foolish , I just don't understand them rootgirl.I'm in thatspace right now i'm night months pregnant and when i was seven months i found out that my boyfriend had a next girl pregnant i don't know how true it his.Right now we are not friends anymore because of this we'v been together over five

hot babymama, so sorry that you and your babyfather have broken up... how long did you know, or did you know him at all...now you are left to raise a child by yourself... i wish you strength in this delicate time..

ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS CONDOMS CONDOMS CONDOMS MORNING AFTER PILLS WOMENS BIRTH CONTROL AND OTHER METHODS. YOU DUMB ILLITERATE SIDE GIRLS NEED TO GET YOURSELF TOGEATHER DO YOU THINK A LADY IN CLASS AND EDUCATED DOESNT KNOW HOW TO PROTECT HER SELF LOTS OF PEOPLE STEP OUT IT JUST HOW YOU DO IT LOOOOOOOOOOOOSERS HOW CAN YOU ACCUALLY SIT THERE AND GET PREGNANT AND BE STUCK TAKING CARE OF A CHILD FOR THE NEXT 18 YEARS AND FEEL YOU WON DUMB DUMB DUMB DUMB THEN WHAT LITTLE MONEY UNO HAVE A FE PITNEY FORMULA AND ALL SORT OF THINGS WHEN THE MONEY YOU GET CAN BE USED TO YOUR EDUCATION AND BETTER YOUR LIFE YOU BUNCH A DUMB DUNCE LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSERS

Hotbabymama...i'm sorry to hear that as well (i agree with matey2) I wish you nuff blessing pon you and ya pickney life...raising a youth inna these days takes a strong woman...But rest a sure dat, mouth make fi say any ting but i mean it from da heart...nuff blessing..pickney a blessing from father GOD and nah body can take dat away...blessing and more blessing....respect..

TDot....although some of your opinions are correct. calling these woman dunce and losers is quite immature of you. Not once did you even mention fault of the male. It takes two to have a baby and two to have a relationship. I do admit that some woman need to be more cautious on the decisions that they choose. But it seems that most people just look pass the man and his faults even though he is the one with the wife or wifey and kids...the matey does not have to answer to her the man does. So mind pointing the finger at one party cause it takes two to tangle and any wifey that blames the matey and stays with her so called husband after he goes out and has another baby well she needs to know that he will do it again cause he knows she isn't going anywhere..no matter how much he cheaps and is disloyal to there family...He might say he loves her but he also telling the matey the same exact thing.....

Look we as women need to realise that 90% of the time there is a triangle relationship is the fault of the men. I am i wife of ten years and just overcame a situation of finding out that my husband had another. Reasons why - i worked too long and hard. Now i went after his tail good and plenty and then went after de woaman cause she knew about me. So she was ignorant to the fact. But my point is u let them do it once and u aint do nothing dey bound to do it again. I can assure u even if mine thinks about doing something like dat again he gonna have to go off island or pray me no find out.

roots i just hate those women who do not realise that a child doesnt mean commitment those breeders breed only 4 one thing to destroy good relationships.

i need some one to hold tight,but for now am single.

My husband didn't cheat on me, but. Before I had met my husband he met a girl and she had said the Miltary told her she couldn't have kids. But little did my husband know that she could. Because the boyfriend before my husband she had a miscriage and after she left my husband of course they had a child and she tried so hard to stick him for everything she could. She then left him and she had gotten involved with a married man and she told him the same thing too. I can't have kids becasue the Miltary told me. But she lied to him. So ALL YOU MEN OUT THERE BE CAREFUL AND DO NOT TRUST WHAT WOMEN TILL YOU!!! Sincerely, A caring Women.

i think that it much the man fault b/c he knows he is married and unhappy at home the man knows if he is gonna cheat wrap up so you dont have to worry about gettin someone knocked up ,bringing trouble where he lay his head at night .sometimes men will get the other woman pregnant so the current girl or wifey can put him out ,it is that the wife or the girlfriend is so stupid to let go if a man dont want you all the holding on in the world isn't gonna make him stay that goes for wifey or girlfriend or the other woman for that matter.men cheat not all but the ones that must be with more than one woman they will use protection not depending on the woman to protect her self also the men are going to make sure they bring no disease home to wifey and trust me they will make sure the other woman wont cause trouble on the home front.a real man that cheats is gonna let the other woman know from the door that he ain;t leaving wifey and he is also gonna let the other woman know that he loves his wife he just fuck other woman.