Women don't be fooled

By Rootzgirl

The time has come to call a spade a spade and present women with some real home truths. I am tired of the many intelligent, independent women out there who are hanging on to these men, washing, cooking, cleaning and treating them like kings, clinging to the hope that one day they will marry them.

Grow up! Take the advise of my dearly departed grandmother, "if a man have cow a him yard, him doh need to buy milk!" In case you can’
't figure out what she means let me put it in blunt terms. You are home giving the man everything he needs. He has a ready punash, someone to
cook his meals, take care of his home and in some cases his children...hat hasn't he got that the married man has?

Absolutely nothing! The only difference is that one woman is wearing a ring and the other is offering all these services without any recognition. I am tired of women tying themselves down with men year after year while he feeds her one excuse after another promising that "as soon as he pays off his loans" or "when he is more financially secure" or the ultimate "he isn't ready yet."

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Now hold on a minute something just ain't right with this picture. You are telling me that finances isn't a problem to have you living with him, he is ready to have you living and doing wifely duties in the home, but when it comes to making a lady out of you there are too many obstacles in the way?

Women, it's time to be smart. I have heard too many stories of you wasting your youthful years with men only to be tossed aside quite ruthlessly for some 'fresh blood'.

Just think if you had called a spade a spade and demanded his intentions you could have made an informed decision a long time ago and make way for someone who would have really appreciated you.

Chu, don't let no man tie you down like cow and then butcher you when you have served your purposes.

If I carried out a survey throughout this country I would not be able to count the number of women living with men and still waiting for that precious ring.

My heart aches for some who are waiting to "go into church" but the dang stubborn man can't make up his mind whether he wants to marry her or not.

In closing I have one challenge for my lady friends you need to give these men a kick in the right direction. If he is not ready for commitment then you know he just wants to have his cake and eat it too...honey in his case love don't cost a thing...make him
pay!

st. maarten

you ladies stop presuring men into marrriage

its a life time time commitment, its something the two suppose to work on not one presuring the other, some ladies spend somuch energy presuring their men into marriage no wonder when they do get it they got no more energy to make it work,

next option is devorce ,

the reason most men have doubts about marriage is you ladies have history of changing from good to bad after marriage, so its obvious that we don't want to get married, so we could continue to enjoy the good stuff while it last ,wit you ladies its always about getting something from a man instead of building something wit him

try to own the ring instead of trying to just get it

it takes more than cooking, washing , cleaning and laying on a bed legs wide open to own a ring or the title wify,lets be for real some of us men can cook wash and clean even better than some of you sisters out here, for the sex part we could buy it from you all,some of you all need to check your selves and ask the quetion ( am i really wife material and if i am wat am i willing to do to stay that way for ever )

evey reaction is based up on an action,

so sisters you all need to act wright in other to get the proper reaction from the brothers,

give your man the guarantee that you will be same person after you get the title. most of you just want get married just to hype on your frenemies;rootz gal i understand you are a woman and you got to defend woman but as an editor you got to address every issue form a male and a female propective, and i think that your articles are based on your own life, you ifluence your self, but yet you claim to be happily married , from your 2 last articles my conclusion is your man won't satisfy you in bed which leads you to masterbation and maybe lesbianism and he still he won't marry you.

PreNup

"Ann" don't get that way... Marriage is not a pre-requisit to happiness... what's ignorant about that?

I'm just speaking on what's really going on. As a man, I'm telling you... too many women out there are still brainwashed to believe that if they don't get married then they are less of a woman. Most women I know right now are still waiting for their ‘Knight In Shining Armor’ to come rescue them and ride off into this land of Forever-Happy… y’all keep waiting while life pass y’all by!

Ladies… there are no Mr. Right… only Mr. right-for-you. So if you have a man in your life right now who’s not treating you right… move him.

If your man treats you like you want to be treated and you are happy… gwaan struggle wid that man… that struggle will give you something that no marriage ring can give you… real life fulfillment.

Some woman will do ANYTHING to be somebody's wife. That's a fact. Ann, maybe I would've agreed with you if you said, "marriage is a long committed relationship", because I'm sure that's what most married people hope it will turn out... but a long committed relation is what marriage rarely is, that's just the reality of the situation married people find themselves in.

I think those women who are breaking their necks to get married could benefit from some real down-to-earth counsel before they reach the church.

Marriage, is like a warrantee, once you leave the alter, it’s like a candle’s flame on a windy day.

Ann

PRE-NUP Oh My you sound sooo ignorant......long commited relationship should be marriage!

kyenn

I'm not sure about jamaica, but in the states the divorce rate is 60%. Most marraiges don't last anyway. I live with my boyfriend, and we have been together longer than most of my married friends (we have no children). Neither of us want to get married, and we have no plans to. As long as the two people in the realtionship are okay, then who is anyone else to judge? Gone are the days of living according to someone else's expectations. Now if you are waiting for a man to marry you......that's another story.

shelly

my 2 cents.

it all boils down to women educating themselves and being independent of these so-called men. A lot of of the less educated women in jamaica are subject to all manner of abuse and its not just about waiting for him to marry them... so many would really like to move on, but for financial reasons and no education cannot afford to do so.